Thursday, September 23, 2010

Using My Singledom For Good

I was thinking tonight (ha! that's right, be worried!) that being single has given me opportunities that I might otherwise not have, if I were married with children or in a relationship. I admit, being single has it's advantages. What are they? Well, here are a few,

1. I don't have to share the newspaper with anyone

2. I can come and go as I please, taking no one into consideration but myself.

3. I don't have to wait a long time to be seated in a crowded restaurant. Although, "Table for one!" always makes me cringe upon hearing it over a loudspeaker!

Seriously though, I was speaking to a co-worker of mine today, we were discussing life and how blessed she is to have so much abundance and then she pointed out that because she was married and had 4 kids and one on the way, she and her husband didn't have time anymore to donate their time to organziations that were dear to their hearts. "Now we just write a check!" she said, laughing sarcastically. "Sorry, I just think writing a check is the easy way out. We don't get the same satisfaction as when we used to actually volunteer." It's understandable, what with kids and a husband, and responsibilities, it would be a miracle to see those two out and about socially! I'm not criticizing her at all, in fact, I commend her, FOUR kids AND one on the way? Ugh! Shoot me now! lol Her words prompted me to think about how I had been neglecting giving back lately. I didn't have her excuses. I am not married, no children, not even a pet! There was nothing keeping me from giving back, but me. It kind of made me feel selfish in a way. For every complaint that I may have about my dating life or my non-existent love life, or my neurotic problems, there are about a million other plights in this world that take precedent over mine. I used to volunteer all the time! I used to donate my time to charities and/or events that needed able bodies. It always made me feel good afterwards. Always. Sigh, I've been neglecting that part of my life. I've been so immersed in my problematic world, that I completely shut everything else out. I know what some of you may be thinking, "How can you help someone else when you can't even help yourself right now?" I'm all over that! You see, helping someone, especially if it involves children, makes me happy. Gives me a sense of satisfaction. I give to them and they give back to me. See? It's a win-win! So after having a long talk with myself this evening, I decided that I need to return to the whole "give back to the community" shpeel. It will help me on my road to a "better version of myself". I know this. And I'm not saying that my problems are not important, it's just that to me, by doing something for someone else in need, I take a little of the "sads" away.

So fellow bloggers, I choose to use my Singledom for good.

5 comments:

Belle said...

I think this is a terrific idea. It will get you out of yourself and into other interesting people. Good for you, and I hope you will tell us stories all about it.

Yvonne said...

I think so too!!! :)

ISRAEL CARRASCO said...

Try meetup.com . You can communicate with people that share your interest. and it's FREE!!!!

Shady Del Knight said...

I applaud you, Yvonne. You are overcoming the inertia that kept you stuck (in the past).

As soon as you start focusing outward (on others rather than yourself) the veil of depression lifts and you become energized and enthusiastic about life. It really helps to know that you are needed.

I can't help wondering why you don't have a pet. A dog will heap love and affection on you 24/7. If you aren't permitted to own a dog where you live get a goldfish. Even a plant can work wonders. I again ask you to recall the story of Ruby Gissing. For a while the only way Ruby had of measuring the daily progress of her life was to care for the plant that sat on her window sill. The plant needed her tlc and she found satisfaction in giving it.

When we stop asking ourselves "why me?" and start asking others "what can I do for you?" our lives take on new meaning. We find ourselves. We experience joy.

Yvonne said...

Shady - I don't have a pet due to rules and regulations where i live.
And as for plants, FERGET IT! lol I kill plants!

Israel - Way to look for me buddy! lol And I'm way ahead of you, I joined Meetup.com last year. I attend funtions quite frequently. Loads of fun! :)