Tuesday, September 21, 2010

This and That...

My post last night was very somber and dark. It prompted calls and texts from friends and family who read my blog and were concerned. Sorry if I scared you, but you know that writing is how I express myself best. :) At any rate, thank you for the concern and the advice and the support! I truly am a lucky girl!

So what's on my mind tonight? Same stuff as last night but not as extreme. And I've got the tears under control, so that's a good thing!

I saw a picture of someone that I care about very much tonight. I saw it by accident! Damn Facebook! We have a mutual friend, he popped up on her page, and the minute I saw his picture, my heart skipped a beat. And so now, he's on my mind. Normally, that would not be such a bad thing, but in my case, it's not a good thing. See, I'm trying to get over him. Something that is proving to be a daunting task at best! So hard to do...

Does that ever happen to you? Not necessarily trying to get over "someone" but trying to get over something, a situation?
What do you do about it?

No matter how much I try and try really hard, it's a constant battle with myself. It's almost like training my mind not to let him or memories about him come into my head. Some days are easier than others but then, life throws a curve ball at you and poof! There is that person/thing/situation again, in your face. At least, it was just a picture. I have not a clue how I would react if he were in front of me. -Oh who am I kidding!!!? I know exactly how I would react!

I miss you, you jerk!

4 comments:

Belle said...

I suppose part of the answer is that it just takes time to get over a lost love. It is natural to grieve over any loss.
After my first husband and I divorced, it took quite awhile until I got over it. When I started dating again I did feel better and knew I would make it.
Just hang in there and know that some day you will forget and the sad feelings will be all in the past.

Shady Del Knight said...

You wrote:

<< It's almost like training my mind not to let him or memories about him come into my head. >>

To borrow one of your recent titles, B-I-N-G-O! You can train your mind to become impervious to unwanted thoughts and images. If one occasionally penetrates your defenses you can learn how to vanish it in an instant. Blast your music. Go to your mind's island and bask in the sun on the beach. I rid myself of unresourceful thoughts by treating it like a video game, having fun shooting down the bad guys when they invade.

I once found myself in a nightmarish office romance/love triangle thingy. A woman I loved kicked me to the curb for a co-worker (formerly my best friend). Every day I had to watch as they strolled the halls together exchanging adoring glances. It became nearly impossible for me to do my job and my health was suffering from the enormous stress. Instead of curling up in the fetal position and letting external circumstances control my state I tapped into my personal power and took massive action. I got dozens of resumes in the mail, got a job in a distant state, moved 1,000 miles away from them and never looked back. Over time those troubling thoughts and images lost their power and potency.

Don't come from scarcity. There are millions of fascinating people to meet. Why limit yourself by dwelling on only one or two? Keep adding new choices, Yvonne. That my (and Tony's) best advice.

Don said...

New kid (a rather old one) on the block here, Yvonne. I just found your blog and like what I see at a first glance.

You wrote, “Does that ever happen to you? Not necessarily trying to get over "someone" but trying to get over something, a situation? What do you do about it?

At the age of 19 I fell in love with a beautiful girl and we eloped, 2 or 3 years later I was drafted into the army and eventually assigned to duty in Germany and my wife had to stay in the USA. Within a year after I returned and returned to civilian life she told me she wanted a divorce. I was crushed, but I consented because if you love someone you have to let them be free ….. and that’s what she wanted. I just tried to go on with my life as best I could and I’m still alive, kicking, contented and happy now over a half century later. Time heals wounds.

Yvonne said...

Shady:

"Don't come from scarcity. There are millions of fascinating people to meet. Why limit yourself by dwelling on only one or two? Keep adding new choices, Yvonne. That my (and Tony's) best advice." ---GREAT advice! lol Thanks and thank Tony for me too!

Belle- I'm trying! And you are right, this too shall pass!

Don- Welcome to my blog! Thanks for stopping by and for sharing a bit of your life with me. I appreciate it! Time does all wounds my friend!