Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Why Do Men Cheat?

A friend of mine called me tonight to tell me that her boyfriend cheated on her. She caught him having sex in his apartment with one of his co-workers. Here's the thing, sometimes I think men want to get caught. Just like sometimes, men (and women but mostly men)pick fights on purpose for whatever reason.

My friend is beside herself. She said she ran out of the apartment but not before managing to give him a piece of her mind.

Why do men cheat? I mean, seriously? Is it because they are "missing" something from the current relationship they are in? Is it because they are compulsive liars? Or maybe they just can't keep it in their pants! What? I never undestood it. My dad cheated on my mom ALL the time. Toward the end of their marriage he got more and more bold and blatant about it. He used to tell her that she "didn't understand" him. What the fuck ever!

My friend Gustabo once told me that he believes men cheat (himself excluded) because they feel trapped, and want to know that they still "have" it. Really? A stroke of the ego is the reasoning for cheating? Nah, I don't buy it. It's a never-ending question. Unfortunately, I don't know that I or "we" will ever be satisfied with a plausible answer. Knowing "why" doesn't or won't diminish the damage already done. But it would still be nice to know. And I'm not saying all men cheat, so no hate mail please!

So, tomorrow I will check on my friend, make sure she is alright and help her get through this because that's what friends do.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

It is a lack of character..... thank God, now she knows he doesn't have any....and can move on....